feedind is the secret of life


Maria lopez

Most of my life, I avoided being busy. It seemed to me as something that consume a lot of energy and also makes one tired. I never wanted anything that will give much stress to my life. I would try to work as little as possible, and rest as much as possible. For me, that was the only way I can reserve much of my energy and enjoy my life.

This was my choice of living until a friend of mine travelled to abroad, tried her luck in life, and got a new partner from Italy. She asked me to come and take care of her apartment so she should check the relationship. I didn’t object it. I agreed. 

The apartment was packed with a lot of books, art, souvenirs, and a lot of potted plants. In it were a dog, dog hair and a lot of other things that deserve being taken care of. Honestly, I didn’t know how I would take over the whole apartment. It wasn’t easy. I didn’t train myself for much work. It wasn’t just part of me to work too much although I made up my mind to take the new task.

As I began taking care of the apartment, it drew huge energy from me. Of course I knew it will. The apartment is really big.

With time, I surprisingly noticed that whenever I finished my task and went in for shower, a new energy, new joy, and peace of mind will come into my life. The energy made me stronger and happier. It makes me feel responsible, nourished, and accomplished.

Whenever I turned to the creatures around me, the creatures i watered and fed, I noticed them feeling healthy.  I noticed them contributing to the joy of nature filled in the apartment. This alone, strengthened me. I was always happy seeing how the potted plants bloom and how extent they are filled with life following my treatment to them.

Nothing makes me so excited than seeing the dog happy whenever he sees me. I was happy to see him enjoying and responding positively to my work on him. He was always by my side playing. I was so happy feeding him, I connected with him. I even began taking him outside to breathe fresh air, to do his need, and to enjoy our surroundings. Really I don’t feel lonely being with him.

At last, unknowingly to me, I began to work hard; I began to regain much energy than ever. The supposed energy taken from me created more and more positive energy that enveloped me. I filled fulfilled, satisfied, comfortable and, above all, I become more strong and healthy than I was when I was working less, when I wasn’t taken much care of my surroundings, when I wasn’t feeding anything than myself.

I learnt that when I feed others, I am actually feeding myself. 

Own Yourself with the Right Boundaries


Anointed Tisha, 43, Sau Paulo.

My parents were successful traders and they both worked on the same business, which we, the children also learned to develop ourselves in as we grow. Although we were comfortable, my parents taught us to appreciate help whenever we get one, to help others, but most importantly, not to depend on anyone before we make progress.

I learned to set my goals for myself, in spite of others. I am responsible for my life and didn’t depend on what others do or did not do nor what they have or did not have. Learning this since childhood barely made me think it was a huge thing. I saw it as the normal way of life and didn’t pay huge attention to it.

Some months ago, we had a number of international students come to stay at our place. My husband and I. We signed up for this program that would accommodate some international students for cross-cultural observation. This particular set stayed with us and

I noticed one of them who was always in tension. I talked to her and realized that her relationships with the other students were not doing well for her. They pretty much took advantage of her for their needs and I don't invite her for their entertainment, it wasn't pleasant to her 

She was a good girl who tried as hard as she could to please the others and did everything to please them but didn't worry about getting what she deserved back.. I helped her to learn how to set boundaries for herself and how it can develop her sense of internal peace and strength. She felt better before leaving us. She learnt and built the consciousness of “I deserve this like anyone else and I am going to get it”. I could literally see her self-worth grow and she is realizing her strength.

I also learned to appreciate the ability to set boundaries for myself. There is always something to be grateful. The last time I spoke with this beautiful lady, she was doing well. She is taking a certification course in one of the most important goals she set for herself. I am glad to know she is doing well.